My sister, a nurse of over 40 years, and once a SRN – who has just turned 64, “MAY” have dementia.
My sister who visited/visits me about 5-10 times a year with her husband, my brother-in-law, has been very absent minded this past two years, so I was told – though I did suspect something. It’s a long story really but to cut it shorter, me - and my other siblings have sensed that my sister has been absent minded for a couple of years – or so, BUT my brother-in-law said, in effect, that “there’s nothing wrong with her”, she ok, and just a “bad phase” she’s going through.
So, after my brother-in-law tried to convince us there was nothing wrong, he went to my other sisters house last night and told them that his wife (my sister of course) may have dementia (It’s been said for quite some time that my brother-in-law may have been living in denial etc).
So last night, my brother-in-law told the rest of my family that he thinks she has Demetria. My sister was very quiet - and unable to communicate “properly” during the visit from my Brother-In-Law. So it’s been a while; 2 years plus I’d say, that it’s finally come out in the open. With my sister present, my Brother-in-law said “we’ll have to take her to a hospital” (for some tests) etc - which brought extreme panic to my sister, and she exclaimed “I’m not going to hospital” (several times).
So what I want to know is– WHERE do we start to get help? My mother had Alzheimer’s disease/dementia from aged 69-78 (2000-2011) and I cared for her at my home for about 5 years, before my mum had to be taken in to a care home ( I also cared for my mentally handicapped brother for 12 years soon after). I’m not sure what advice to tell my Brother-in-law as to where to start, but I would assume a specialist doctor, or perhaps a social worker to get the ball rolling for help my sister may need? I can’t quite remember my mums first visits/contacts etc – so I would like you help me on this matter please.
It pains me that this should have been out in the open longer ago, and sought “treatment” for whatever Illness my sister may have (there’s nothing confirmed yet though, as she not been anywhere yet – and I’m only taking my brother-in-law’s words at face value, that she “may” have Dementia).