We are having issues with my mother in laws sister,it’s been discussed that as my mother in laws dementia gets worse she will be put into a care home her son and myself have never been consulted and nothing has been wrote down,I contacted social worker who came to see us all did usual asked questions what was going on my mother in law told her what her sister had been saying and also that she mentions care homes mother in law gave clear consistent answers with questions social worker asked,outcome no concerns about mother in law we are doing a excellent job and as care homes are closing social worker said be hard to find somewhere and also she does not meet the criteria for one she has stated her wishes to remain at home with support from carers and myself and hubby,dementia nurse has been and also noted all this down so all good apart from interfering Annie,it’s took a couple of years to find some support a lady takes her out couple of days a week that’s been nearly spoiled by her sister coming on a day this lady came and mother In law did not want to do anything social worker has put more support in but been cancelled by her other sister who lives in Spain we re enstated it as it would only confuse mother Inlaw we had a call fri saying they can’t do there job while she is there we said just carry on so career went back,no one but us do anything and everything we do is being undone no matter what we do they don’t have a legal right to cancel anything at breaking point as I don’t know what to do.
My dad has dementia undiagnosed for a couple of years,he was diagnosed last Nov 2017 this last 12 months he has got worse and it kills me as he knows,we spent xmas with him and mum and we have seen him so different it’s upset my husband and myself