Hi again @ontheverge
The waterproof duvet covers are available from Amazon.
It doesn’t seem to like loading the preview but if you click on the blue “Amazon” line the link works - I just searched Waterproof Duvet Cover.
I put waterproof mattress covers on a bed when Dad stayed with us some years ago. I found them so useful I now have them on all the beds. These days they don’t have to be “rubber sheets” or crinkly things that make a noise every time you turn over. Some of mine are made of bamboo fibres and they are washable and just like ordinary sheets, but just go under the bed sheet.
As far as bed pads go, we use AgeUK Continence site as they seem to have the best one for us (they do small medium and large pads and also provide them in different capacity - some pads are the full bed length which can be very useful:
They also sell waterproof duvet covers.
Their site also has a section with advice on continence problems which may be helpful. They also have a section which sorts by gender which is really helpful as men and women are not made the same after all!!
There are other suppliers which I know others find helpful such as www.Incontinenceshop.com / www.incontinencechoice.co.uk / www.incontinenceuk.co.uk / www.incontinencesupermarket.co.uk
Glad I mentioned the carpet as there would be nothing worse than spending a lot of money and then finding out it’s made the situation worse. My Dad used to scuff his feet along and I was worried as he ended up polishing the soles of his shoes or slippers on the carpet which resulted in even less grip.
A bit of advice - ask GP for referral to OT as they can supply a LOT of items FREE on permanent loan. We have a bed grab handle which Graham says is the best thing he has ever seen as well as a couple of walking sticks, not to mention the wheeled walker with seat without which he would not be able to get out most medical appointments. I was given a small wheelchair for him, otherwise they said they would provide one. They also supplied an inflatable cushion which we used in the old car to help raise him slightly. It can be used on any seat. Thankfully when I changed the car the main criteria was the seat should be high enough that he can get in and out without assistance and, so far, he has managed. OT may be able to make suggestions about floor coverings too - even though they wouldn’t be able to fund that.
One thing I have done is set up the Smart Speakers we have around the house so with one instruction it will call my mobile. So if Graham has a fall or is unable to get out of a chair while I am out on a dog walk etc, all he needs do is call “Alexa call Chris” and within a few seconds my phone rings and we can talk to each other - and it costs nothing! I am sure other Smart Speakers can be set to do similar. It means he doesn’t have to have his mobile with him or be able to reach the landline handset so even if he is lying on the floor he can communicate. I ca then head for home and assess if I need to alert a neighbour or call an ambulance while I am en route (ambulance has taken 23 minutes to reach us with blues and two’s before now).
A few other points (hope I am not preaching to the choir:
Are you registered with YOUR’S AND MUM’S GP as her Carer? If not, please advise them both in writing as they will note it on both Records and that should trigger more help and consideration for each of you. If YOU are ill they will understand what pressure you are under and double check if that is making you worse. They can offer other help depending on your needs.
Are you registered with your local Carer’s Support Centre? They can provide a Career’s Emergency Card to keep in your wallet so if anything happens to you it gives an emergency number and reference so someone will check on Mum and alert others too.
Does your employer know you are a Carer? It might be worth ensuring they do, as if you have to take time off at short notice they will be aware there is a genuine reason. It could also prevent them starting disciplinary action in an extreme situation.
Glad the comments you’ve had have been helpful. If you check out the “Roll Call” thread on here you’ll find a number of us exchange comments most days and support one another and sound off when we need to - and no-one judges!!. Useful if you get frustrated and want to vent or ask for general advice. Lots of experience and knowledge on there and you can share or ask. Say as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. Some describe it as ‘a chat over the garden fence’.