Just looking for some advice. Me and my dad are currently caring for my mum, and have been for the last 16 months together. I have been looking after my mum solo before that since November 2016.
Since the start of the pandemic, her mental health got a ton worse and she was diagnosed with Psychosis, General Anxiety and has since developed Agoraphobia and severe Separation anxiety.
The separation anxiety is to the point where if she is sitting downstairs watching TV with my dad, and he moves to go the toilet or make a sandwich, she starts to hyperventilate and shake and have a panic attack basically. Same if he is upstairs talking to me, or if I (I basically live in my bedroom, only coming out for food, toilet breaks and to do my mums daily medicines) leave my room and speak to them downstairs, same thing happens.
We are unable to take her out for a walk as she has a panic attack within minutes of leaving the house, and we are unable to go out for walks or drives on our own, as she has a panic attack as soon as one of us leaves the house. The only time she is calm is if she is able to have the exact same daily routines, day in and day out.
She also has OCD and is laser focused on having her breakfast at 9am, her lunch at 1145 and her dinner at 1645, with her medicines at 1300 and 2230. Any variance from this causes another bout of panic.
As you can imagine, this has become unbearable and we are both starting to feel dragged down to her level. We are under a local mental health team, who haven’t been the biggest help so far. Mum is currently on Fluoxetine and Olanzapine. We have seen improvements since she switched to Fluoxetine (was previously on Mirtazapine, which didn’t work at all) in terms of her mood lifting slightly, some personality returning etc, but the Separation Anxiety, OCD and Agoraphobia are as bad as ever, and they are what is ruling three lives.