It seems it is going back to square one

As it says in the title, things are seems to be going backwards than forwards.
Know mum is trying to make her self well which is good but it’s becoming o the point again where mum is pushing the buttons to make me annoyed with her.
Waking me up early for sweets
Cleaning the toilet every 5 mins
Emptying food bags when it is needed to lack of space
Making food that is not needed
Wanting things to be brought from upstairs to downstairs before building work has started to do new bedroom
Wanting not only wanting to go out when I have things need to be done but just wants to spend
Not letting me have time or space to myself
As soon as I come in through the door, wants food to be made
Coming home from being out and finding extra work being made that is not needed.
Her social worker is off for the moment but hope she is back soon, no one in mental health are willing to help until the social worker is back. Even dad is not doing anything to help to stop it.

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Maybe try keeping a diary of what happens. Also see if you can get live in care in place for her for now.

Thanks, until her social worker is back, nothing can be done

Hi Micheal
It is profoundly difficult in these circumstances that you describe, we have been caring alongside chaos for 10 years.
I have to find ways to conserve energy at a mind level.I am sure you do this.
I listen to Pema Chodron who is not everyone’s go to resource. It is a case of finding a way of giving up on thinking how things should be at times.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing how I cope as we are all different.
I hope the social worker returns or is replaced
Warmly Ula

Any update original poster.

Still waiting for the social worker to come back. Mum has reached that peak but gone backwards down it than up and over it. It has not help that yesterday I had to go twice to get her weekly meds as the pharmacist who had done the prescription had filled it somewhere else and not with the rest. I have complained that every other week there is a problem in getting it and it is getting most annoying for all of us. I had mum kick off yesterday as well which did not help for trying to clear space for more equipment for dad as he was in hospital over night due to collapsing from over doing it to walk to the bathroom, that came about from his recliner chair failing twice and a argument I had with social services about someone coming to fix it. I have got to hear from the person of complaints.

How are you doing @Michael_1910123 ? How’s your dad?

Well I am OK. Dad is OK, waiting to see medical team about disks replacement on his neck. Mum might have heart failure

A lot of people here seem to have medication problems. My son’s surgery won’t let him have his next lot of hay fever tablets until he’s almost out of them, not much help if he’s going away for a week with me. So often he ends up having some of mine, fortunately identical. Is this sort of penny pinching/waste prevention causing issues with vital medication too? My surgery takes online requests, forwards them to the chemist, then I collect them, but they can be delivered. Should this system be available nationwide? Or is the system not working well in some areas?

@bowlingbun For us it takes five working days, sometimes six, to receive medication after placing an order. And we are told that if we need them more quickly it won’t happen. Yet new prescriptions can be ready in a couple of hours.

And heaven help you if you’re going away when you need to place your order - not even a day early is acceptable: bearing in mind that where we’ve been staying didn’t have reliable internet 6 months ago, it was a bit of a worry. So it’s really just as well that the chalet site has installed a much more reliable - and free, this time - wi-fi network.

Until about 6 months ago, we got our prescriptions through Lloyds Pharmacy at Sainsbury’s, but Lloyds closed all of their in-store pharmacies: but we could get same day turnaround there. For everything.

Is fthis something Carers U K could/should take up on our behalf?

Sorting S’s prescriptions in a timely way is a nightmare for me. Complete order online, repeated phone calls to surgery who :chicken: it up, numerous visits to chemist to collect it in dribs and drabs … each time with a long wait.

We too used to collect from fab Lloyds chemist, then cut opening hours and became bedlam. Moved to Boots - no better as lots of Boots closed. Shortage of pharmacies and pharmacists seem to be the cause and more and more people relying on them as can’t get to see GP …


…and the government is encouraging people to use pharmacies more while there are fewer pharmacists around…

Exactly - their role is getting ever bigger