Hello and thanks for your welcome and reply. I’ve definatly got to learn to let go and have to keep reminding myself that my mam is an adult and although I don’t always agree with the choices she makes, there is not much I can do, at times, so Im just going to try and guide her in, what I think, is the right direction. I’m pleased that you find that the camera helps. I did think of asking mam if she wanted one, although I know what her, very impolite answer would be. 
Plus, I know that I would be looking at it every five minutes. I thought my mam was the only one who has gadgets but doesn’t use them, so when I hear you say that your mum has a call pendant, but doesn’t use it, that’s exactly the same as my mam would be. She has told me that she wouldn’t use it. When I’m 80 and needing help I hope that I’m a bit more obliging. The best part is she says to me that she doesn’t want to worry me by asking for help. I can’t get it through to her that I worry more by her not asking for help.
Best wishes and take care. 
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You have to pass responsibility back to her. For example, doesn’t want the pendant? Fine, tell her it will be her fault if she trips and falls and ends up on the floor for hours!
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@bowlingbun I agree. I have told my mother this too. Every Sunday when I phone I ask her if she has it on. Often she says no. Her neighbour too reminds her. But yes, they do need to take responsibility for themselves and if they do not comply, then sadly they have to be aware of the potential consequences.
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