Hi All.
I am new so forgive me if I posted in the wrong section.
My Dad suffers from Parkinson and Dementia. His Parkinson symptoms have been very slow in progression but his Dementia as become worse much quicker.
My Mum is the full time carer and is totally exhausted, as been for a long time. She has no other help and to be honest it as been hard to know how to help her. My Sister and I have set up various appointments of which they have attended but for one reason or another things have not worked out.
Mum is at a point now that she really is open to get some time to herself. Having heard of a Dementia day care center near us. Which as a very good reputation we have been trying to get a day there for Dad. It has taken a long time to get a slot.
We have been allocated this coming Monday.
The really big concern for me is how to broach it with Dad ? We as a family are of the opinion Dad is not going to want to go if asked outright.
He does not like Mum to be out of his sight for long. I take him out on a regular basis but he generally asks about Mum at some point. A bit less of late. That said I can’t remember a time that Mum and Dad have been apart !
I will be taking Dad on Monday for the first time, apparently I can only stay a short time as they need to see how he copes.
We arrive at 10.30 and hopefully pick Dad up at 3.
I’m so worried this is not going to go well as it really needs to for Mum’s sake.
Sorry for the waffle and most probably bad grammar (Plastering is my game) not the best with the written word.
In short I was hoping for some suggestions on how I can approach attending and leaving Dad at the center for a few hours.
ps; Although Dad is confused a lot of the time. He does understand things “as it seems” when he wants to.
As Mum says he perks up when I visit. He trusts me and I don’t want to ruin that. Dad was a Plasterer we spent many years working together.
Regards
Gary