How do you cope with the loneliness?

[Chris_22081]

Hi Clare.

Isn’t it ‘funny’ how friends disappear so quickly? Of course true friends are those who, when you find yourself in a hole, are in there with you finding a way out together! Regrettably they tend to be few and far between.

I am fond of quoting people who have said ‘oh if you need help ring me any time…’ and when I reply ‘oh that’s so kind, next time I need help at 3am when Graham has wet the bed and I need to clean him up then strip and remake the bed, I’ll give you a call It’s really kind of you to offer that sort of help…’ they go VERY quiet… Fair-weather-friends!

When I have made an offer like that I follow up with “and you know I DO MEAN ANY TIME, don’t you?” Don’t say it if you don’t mean it!!

I think you are seeing the sort of support which is available on here, so turn to us when you need to chat, vent or just feel down in the dumps.

[clare_2252]

Oh Chris, I hear you!

From the friends who said ‘we are always here’ or jokingly said ‘you won’t get rid of us that easily’ and I have not heard from them for a year!

People can tell you they think you are amazing, or that carers are the unsung heroes, but words are easy to say and mean nothing if they aren’t followed up.

Thank you for your reply too - it’s good to know that it’s not just me feeling the same way!

Best wishes,
Clare

[Ula]

Dear Andrew
My caring situation hardly changes, 10 years of same old samey caring. But all of you folks help me bare the anxiety.
Warmest wishes Ula