Hi, I’ve just found this forum and hope it will be help me.
I’m 54 and a carer for my husband - J - who is 62.
Over the last 2 years, due to complications with diabetes and Dr’s not seeing patients, he unfortunately had 4 amputations on 1 foot & leg.
Our life has changed beyond recognition! Sometimes I don’t know what I’m meant to do?
He has always been a working man, but now sits in a wheelchair at home all day, not wanting to do anything or go out. J will not discuss his mental health and says he’s fine.
I have gone from being his wife to his carer and I really don’t know how to cope? I tell everyone I’m fine and try to be positive with a smile on my face.
I don’t know anyone in my situation at my age to speak to…
I still manage to work 3 days a week (support worker) but do most things around the house, help J shower, help him get dressed, do all the cooking & housework- when we used to share everything.
I had to fight to get Universal Credit for J and currently waiting for a date for Tribunal Court as PIP won’t pay full amount I think he’s entitled too.
I’m exhausted physically and emotionally!!
Any advice welcome