What I’m saying is, that at some point, ‘quality of life’ takes precedence over ‘sensible caution’ in my book. Yes, 67 is ‘young old’, but what is the point of her living another 30 years ‘in dread’ (ie, with her chronic anxiety and depression)? Isn’t it ‘less worse’ for her to be on medication to improve her daily quality of life?
That said, best of all of course would be counselling. Did she ever have any in respect of the abuse she suffered, and even if she did, clearly it ‘didn’t work completly’ did it, since she is STILL left with anxiety and depression. I would strongly recommend going back to the GP and at the least ‘getting in the queue’ for more counselling, probably along the lines of Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (as abuse IS traumatic!)
I think, too, surely it would help if you made a start on getting in touch with charities and support organisations for victims of abuse (that includes you, as well as your mum). These days it is an ‘accepted grim truth’ that many, many, many women (and sometimes men!) DO suffer from partner abuse, and there is SO much more that is done about getting victims through to a better place mentally.
To my mind the logic is simple. EVERY day that your mum is ‘unhappy’ (depressed, anxious) is another day of victory for her abuser…
That’s why they say ‘the best revenge is a life well lived’. Don’t let your abusive dad cast his grim shadow over your mum any longer…
(It may help to explore reasons WHY your father was abusive. Sometimes abusers are fundamentally very sad, fearful people - they have abandonment issues of their own, and so seek to ‘ensure’ they are ‘loved’ by ‘coercing’ their wives/husbands into ‘making’ them love them, or at least ‘fear them’…it’s about ‘control’ in the end, and sometimes wounded souls can want to ‘control’ others, if they feel THEY themselves were never ‘cared about’ by their OWN parents, etc etc.)(That said, some abusers are simply pyschos who enjoy hurting others, and in that case, there is no hope for them!)
(I’m not saying that understanding WHY someone abuses another human being then excuses it, let alone warrants forgiveness, but it DOES make it more explicable, and maybe less frightening? To see the abuser as actually a ‘wounded soul’ makes THEM more vulnerable, and takes away their ‘power’ over your mind and memory? They were, in the end, just ‘saddos’…nothing ‘powerful’ about them at all…‘pathetic’ more than ‘threatening’…)???