Stephanie
Sad to hear of your loss.
You found strength [as I did] and am sure you will continue with it.
Time to take care of yourself.
Keep posting if you can
((( Hugs)))
Stephanie,
I’m sorry to hear about your Dad. Take heart that he is now at peace.
Be kind to yourself.
I echo Pet - keep posting if you can.
Melly1
Stephanie, sorry to hear that dad has died, he is at peace now.
This is a forum for former, as well as current carers.
We are still here for you, if you need us. How is mum taking things?
Awww thank you all.
Mum is OK, despite having a heart operation just a month ago she is better than I have seen her in a long time, a strong stoic Yorkshire woman who has had more than her fair share of **** over the years. She is grateful for her sixty happy years of marriage to a kind and gentle man that adored her even in his fuddled mind, but also relieved that her prison sentence has ended and this part is easier than the last few years have been.
We are both suffering from the guilt trip though, despite not a single person from the doctors to care home to friends or family saying we shouldn’t. The “what if” we hadn’t pushed for him to go into care…I hope I will come to terms with that in time.
I truly hope she gets to enjoy her freedom for a few more years.
I won’t go away, thanks all, you are wonderful people.
Don’t let the Guilt Monster creep into your head.
Keep telling yourself that you and mum did your VERY BEST, you know that you would never ever have agreed to residential care if there had been a workable alternative.
Don’t feel guilty, replace “guilt” with “sad”.
That said, the last few months will go round and round in your heads for a while, that’s part of the grief process I’m afraid. Keep remember the healthy kind dad you were lucky to have had.
My daughter always said whatever decisions we made for hubby came from the right place. This is certainly true of you and your mum xx
