@Justvisiting No my husband is annoyed I have a Befriender as HE is the ill one. I have suggested he get a Befriender in the pasts via Age UK or one of the other charities who offer this service but no interest. He is so deaf now that it is not a viable option. He does have headphones on but when I am on the phone if he is awake, and in fairness he does sleep a lot, he tends to take them off and listen. So even when I think he is dozing I cannot talk openly. Outside is not viable as it is a built up area and I would be way too nervous to speak on a mobile upstairs as the signal is not always good and he would want to know why I needed to talk privately. He is an abusive bully and the only way he got away with it for so long was by totally isolating him. At least I see him for what he is now.
That sounds awful for you. I hope you can find some support here.