I finding it hard at the moment to cope with being pushed away and rejected and generally being made to feel like I’m the enemy.
My fiancé’s mental healt is at a big low point right now and at the moment most of the time when I try to suggest things to help I get snapped at and accused of things and just being made to feel like an outlet for stuff to be taken out on me.
I have never been a very loving person in the sense of giving hugs or being lovey and it has always mostly made me feel uncomfortable. This is something my fiancé has known from the get go. So recently his mental health has taken a downward spiral and he needs a lot of understanding and is always asking for cuddles and being reassured etc. This is something that I have really pushed myself to do even when I’ve really been uncomfortable with it I have forced myself in order to be there for him.
So I know it’s all well you love someone that what you do for them but sometimes when I’m trying my hardest and it gets chucked back at me or I get pushed away and shut out it hurts more because of how much I have pushed myself to do it in the first place. I guess the main thing is I feel like I try my hardest to give all I can and understand all I can but I don’t get anything back or any understanding given to me.
So anyway I was just trying to give some context to the question but does anyone have any advice on how to cope with being shut out and rejected or having things taken out on you.