Help! How do you cope with a 93 year old mum who is in obvious pain but will not help themselves?
She has ulcerated legs. Refuses to sit with her legs elevated. Now she has stopped going to bed at night
She sits in the armchair and just complains all the time I visit. She is not going to bed and so she is unsure of the time of day now
Whatever I suggest is dismissed. She thinks I am being bossy
We had a shouting match yesterday as she just refuses to help herself
I don’t want to visit any more
I feel so guilty for lack of compassion but she is wearing me out
Carers come 3 times a day. I was visiting every day but am now trying to have a day off at least a week