I have just joined and want to talk about caring after my elderly mother . Some days i just don’t have the patience and i feel that i am trapped
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There are lots of current and former carers on our forum in this situation, including me.
Tell us a bit more about your rough ages, living arrangements and mum’s health challenges and I hope we can help. Is mum disabled or just very needy?
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Mum is 89 and she is sound mind but her mobility is poor she needs a zimmer frame to get around the house. She needs a wheelchair when we are outside. I have always cared for her and I have siblings who don’t really help with mum. I have to ask for help they never offer it just gets me feeling resentful and sad.i am 54 mum lives with myself and my husband .
@Diamond1 …..welcome to the forum from me. I used to be a carer but aren’t anymore. Hopefully you’ll find this forum a great place to chat to others who are going or have been through similar.
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Sadly I had the same problem with my siblings, always “too busy” to help. However mum was so fed up she changed her will, in my favour. Does mum claim Attendance Allowance? Give you most of her pension to contribute to household expenses? Then you can run a dishwasher, a tumble dryer, etc.
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Being a carer is a lonely and sometimes difficult job. I’ve been a carer (until recently) for 30+yrs. I too have days where frustration overwhelms you. I’m feeling a lot of frustration right now because my mum had a stroke over 6 months ago. It’s frustrating me in the fact that I can’t do nothing to help her. But, I’m not giving up. That is what you should say top yourself everyday, even when you want to vent. Using websites like this is a good way to vent. Also, talk to people who you are close to (friends and/or family). If you need other advice regarding your situation try Citizen’s Advice. They can advise you on what help you need. Hope this helps.
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