FYI: There’s really no “point” or question to this post. I am simply having a massive moan about my situation.
There’s a “meme” that each year since 2019 has gotten progressively worse. It’s not even a joke for me anymore.
This year, in July my stepdad died of cancer. To be frank, I did not have a good relationship with him so I was not really affected, but I had to help him, by way of taking the strain off my elderly mum who initially was looking after him, herself.
Now, just before Xmas we were told that mum has developed cancer again. Not the same, different one… but spread between at least 2 organs. Waiting for results of CT scan soon to know full extent.
A few days before being told THAT. my work “let me go” which is just a bullshit way of saying “firing” because I took too many days off between November and December, for being sick myself and looking after mum.
Did I mention in October she was finally formally diagnosed as having Alzheimer’s and Vascular dementia?
I am staying in mum’s council house with her, which my partner and I were clearing, getting ready to give it back to the local housing authority in February - and mum was to move in with us.
Now, I don’t know if mum will be having any treatment (I am assuming they will say she is too frail for anything - she’s underweight) but if she will be, there’s a clinic literally 6 minutes drive down the road from her house.
So, if that’s the case I will be stuck staying here looking after her - 4 hours away from my own house, and my partner.
The day after I got fired, I rang up and requested an Attendance Allowance form for my mum and when she can get that - if she gets that - I will apply for Carer’s Allowance.
I’m also waiting to be named as mum’s POA. The woman I spoke to said it should definitely be done by mid January. This is after sending it off, with a solicitor’s help, in May.
I simply can’t be away from my partner again. I was away from him so much last year while I took weeks off and came and stayed 4hrs away from him and our house, to stay with my parents to help them. If anything else happens I think I’m just going to sit down in the middle of the road and not get up again. Just lay down there and go to sleep or get run over by a bus. Whichever happens first, really!!!