I have started being responsible (with my brother) for the care of my dad. We both work full time and are really struggling to coordinate. Are we just disorganised or do others feel this. Is there any advice, apps, coordination tools, techniques, literally anything that could help us manage his schedule.
hi @Jboyce36 ,welcome to the fourm. The best thing I can suggest is that you 2 have a sit down and just have a chat to start with and see what time’s and things you can do between each other like planning a event. have you got someone supporting you when you 2 can;t look after dad because you are both stuck in work or need equitpements? has he got a social worker or someone for you to chat to about care needs? You can contact social services and see how it goes or ask the carers helpline. I know the british red cross can help wtih something . best of luck
I would suggest that he had a carer going in every day to take the pressure off both of you.
Is he physically or mentally frail?
Claiming Attendance Allowance?
Does he have over £23,000 in savings? Just yes/No is all we need as an answer. It’s the limit above which Social Services will pay for none of his care. Below it they will pay for some or all of the care he needs.
Have a look here on the Carers UK main website
especially the Jointly App 
Developed by Carers UK, Jointly is an innovative mobile and online app that is designed by carers for carers.
Jointly makes caring easier, less stressful and more organised by making communication and coordination between those who share the care as easy as a text message.
Others on here know that I was reaching saturation point caring for Graham and I persuaded him (well OK I said if we don’t get help I will go bang!) to let me get help 3 mornings a week, just for an hour to get him up and showered. I do everything else from cooking to running the house and all bits in between. Those hours have already made a huge difference to me. I would recommend getting just a little help to start with so you can all get used to it and see how it works. A trial basis doesn’t hurt and can be a help introducing someone “new” into the equation before it’ becomes essential (which was my big fear).