Completely overwhelmed.

I am coming up for sixty and I have been caring in various capacities for thirty years now.
My child was born with progressive physical genetic disorders and neurological differences and those turned out to be inherited from my husband and so I was busy dealing with that for two decades. My child is now an adult and living with their spouse in a different part of the UK many hundreds of miles away. But now I have my mother to look after instead.

Hi Overwhelmed,

welcome to the forum, I hope you find it helpful and supportive.

I have posted on your other thread.


Hi @Overwhelmed

I wanted to wish you a warm welcome to the forum and to highlight some of the options for connecting with fellow carers and for getting support from Carers UK should you be looking for support.

Carers UK are running online weekly meet ups for carers to take some time for themselves and chat to other carers. Feel free to join if you’d like to and there’s no pressure to share anything you don’t want to.

You can find information on how to register to our online meetups at the following pages:

Care for a Cuppa: Online meetups | Carers UK - the next online meet up is today (Monday 5 July), 11.00-12.00 with further sessions shown in that link. This social is a great way to have a little break if you are able to and spend some quality time talking to people who understand what you are going through right now.

Share and Learn: Share and Learn | Carers UK - these sessions range from creative writing activities to beginners Latin dance sessions.

There is also Carers UK’s helpline should you need advice or support - Our Telephone Helpline is available on 0808 808 7777 from Monday to Friday, 9am – 6pm or you can contact us by email (

Carers UK also provide information and guidance to unpaid carers. This covers a range of subjects including:

Benefits and financial support
Your rights as a carer in the workplace
Carers’ assessments and how to get support in your caring role
Services available to carers and the people you care for
How to complain effectively and challenge decisions.