Thank you so much @Victoria_1806 for your such kind words. I like to think I am a very resilient person. Like @Teddy123 I roll up my sleeves and get on with it. But I’m taking onboard the advice of those who have experienced this before me and trying to stick to my guns.
Another day and another trip to the pharmacy for yet more medication. MIL has now received an additional appointment on Monday with haematology. That means she has 3x appointments at 3x different locations on the 4th March. I’ve encouraged my partner to take the day off work as it would surely fall to me to take her if he doesn’t…
We’re not sure what this appointment is for so MIL’s had a bit of a wobble worrying about that.
She is better-ish this afternoon. She got involved in a virtual AA meeting that she had steadfast refused to participate in, we had to encourage her and set the whole thing up; however another member on the call had a very similar story to her and she could relate, so she started talking, and came away from it very motivated towards change. We’ll see if that lasts…
Ultimately, with the right support in place I think she could improve and start taking more care of herself. She’ll need carers for life but some of the day to day I think she would be capable of doing herself (safely), if only the family can continue to reach for that point.
Incontinence is a common occurrence around here. I’ve taken to regularly talking about poo with MIL. A habit from my nursing but also the incidents have somewhat reduced as she’s taking more notice of when and how she needs to go. What size, shape, colour, and frequency. Helps to head off any unwanted scenarios.
I would strongly encourage anyone to talk about poo. I’d shout it from the rooftops! And to anyone reading that might be interested, Gut by Julia Enders is a fantastic book about how our bowels are our ‘2nd brain’. I would highlight recommend.
Updates to come on where I decide to go for my time off. I’m thinking log cabin with a hot tub, or a mini-city break in Europe somewhere. I’d love to fly to Nice and get the train to Monaco like I did several years ago.