"Hi this is my very first post so apologise if I’ve done this wrong. I live with my mum she is 83 and has poor mobility and balance issues. I’m 47 and work 4 days a week. This is a local authority house and is in her name. I’ve just been told that our current care provider cannot continue and the social worker has informed us if they can not find another provider from their supplier list. She will have to go into a home…my mother refuses to go as she has been in her home 50 years and also grieving for her son who died Dec last year. Please any advice and help would be appreciated. "
Joanne, hi and welcome. Just to say the moderators may well move your post and the answers you are getting to a separate thread of your own, so you don’t get muddled up with Jacqueline’s and both of you have your own ‘space’!! Don’t worry, the Mods will do this - you don’t have to do anything, just look out for a new thread on the Newbie Section!!
Till then - it’s EXTRMELY worrying that you are living in your mum’s house that you are NOT a tenant in yourself. I think you must do everything you can to get on the tenancy.
What will happen when your mum dies, or she goes into a care home (if that has to happen)? Will you be homeless? Do you have any savings? Can you rent somewhere else? Can yo uafford to? etc etc etc.
The trouble with caring for others is that all too often we stop caring about ourselves! But as Chris warns, carers can and do get made instantly homeless. It’s REALLY risky!
And please, whatever you do, do NOT give up paid work! Otherwise you will have no income to pay any rent of your own, and probably won’t be able to get a tenancy anyway, as you will be unemployed. The world is RUTHLESS to ‘ex-carers’!!! The authorities do not gie a DAMN. All they want you to do is look after your mum ‘for free’ etc etc.
As you are discovering, saving money is their only priority. And with the acute shortage of housing, the moment your mum moves out or dies, there will be a queue round the block to ‘grab’ her house! You won’t get a look in!!! UNLESS you get on the tenancy yourself.
I would strongly urge you to contact someone like Shelter to ensure your rights - such as they are (and they may not be!)- are protected.
I know you love your mum, but she would not want you ending up homeless and broke…
Please protect yourself, as the state will NOT.