Hi all,
MIL is disabled, cannot get out of her chair without a hoist and totally dependant on her 4 daily home care visits, plus us for her shopping, laundry, errands etc.
I went down today to meet with her and GP as MIL has swallowing issues when she eats, and GP wanted to discuss results of Barium Xray and options to improve/resolve going forwards. When GP arrived, she said she was pleased to see me there, as she had previously visited MIL a couple of weeks ago, and felt she didn’t understand the conversation and struggled to answer her questions, so had planned to ring us later today to discuss her situation.
We know MIL is forgetful, muddled, hardly knows what day it is sometimes, ie she rang us on the evening of 28th December as she wanted to wish us Happy New Year … 3 days early … She is showing signs of dementia but we have always felt it is good that she is immobile as she cannot go out alone or get herself in trouble. However, I do wonder if she would now be considered as having Mental Capacity. The GP said to ring her at any time to discuss any concerns. What purpose/benefit comes with her not being mentally capable to make decisions? When GP left today, after a long discussion on her current issues, MIL said good job you were here as I didn’t understand anything she asked me and don’t know what this is all about … having had 3 lifeline calls to her in the last 10 days, surely she should remember she has been choking on her food?
I am sure the GP will arrange a Mental Capacity review if I ask, but not sure what it will gain. We currently have Financial LPA for her, as do her banking etc, but never went down the Health LPA route as felt she had capacity at that time, but doubt she would pass a test now. We don’t want to use it to force her into care etc, but the time will come when this may be needed as she is declining to the point where being home alone is not a safe situation.
Any advice appreciate, thanks.