Hello, i am carer to my Mum and Dad. I suppose I have been for many years as they have longterm disabilities but in the last couple of years they have both had strokes, Mum’s was severe and is now barely mobile, Dad’s much more recent and was a minor one. I am disabled myself and I have always lived with them so the majority of any care has fallen onto my shoulders. My brothers and sisters are mixed in how much support and help they offer and how often this is. Put it this way, I have felt ashamed of most of them this year. I never thought i would feel so let down by them. A neighbour asked me how I was the other day, the neighbours I talk to are the only ones who ask me that. I raised my hand high and said up to here meaning my frustration and anger but at the same time pointed to the floor meaning my depression and general mood. I am often in tears, try to avoid arguments but am usually caught up in one at least once a day, and just need a place to vent without being told i need counselling like my sister said when i was trying to get her to help. My parents are often in foul moods and have no patience with me, bicker all the time and try to get me involved in their arguments. They often say hurtful things to me and seem oblivious to everything I do but when one of my siblings actually does something its absolutely marvelous and talked about for days.
My mum always spoke in glowing terms about my brothers who might visit once a yea. I did all the caring and got £20 for Christmas, whilst brothers “borrowed” thousands, without paying back.
Was no post stroke help offered?
Are they both claiming disability benefits?
Have either of them had a Needs Assessment from Social Services?
Have you had a Carers Assessment?
Dear Flowers
I hope you have something for you,
It sounds like you give, give give,
Do you have any space, time, to escape, do you have a garden 
or a pet, I dearly hope something brightens your day as it must be v tough,
Thinking of you Ula
@Flowers Welcome aboard!
You’ll find a few of us “old lags” - very long term carers - and we all have horror stories to tell about family.
Have you considered getting help in via social services?