Hello all,
I’m new to this forum. The last few days have been a bit challenging and I thought if nothing else I’d just share what’s been happening.
I’m 39 and ten years ago I moved back into my parents home. At the time, they were in there 60’s, still working in the NHS and fairly healthy. It was my health that wasn’t great at the time. I’m epileptic and in my 20s, whilst working abroad, my epilepsy got worse. Long story short, I came home to go through medication changes. (I’m much better now and seizures are managed).
Also, whilst living abroad I saw many parents of friends pass away, and the fear kicked in and I wanted to be closer to them as they got older.
Over the last decade however, the parents have had a series of health challenges.
Mum has had a knee replacement, and has been diagnosed with glaucoma for which she has had surgeries. As an asthmatic, whilst she was actually ok during the pandemic’s safety measures, she seems to have been getting more chest infections lately even with the vaccinations.
Dad has had a heart surgery and a few years ago was diagnosed with prostate cancer.
Being retired doctors, they’re also not the best patients lol and do not rest. But you could argue it’s better that way and they’re busy. Mum has to keep her hands busy - cooking, cleaning, gardening if she can. Dad tries to keep his brain engaged even though he physically isn’t as active as he used to be- he’s like a big kid and LOVES YouTube (shorts).
I’d love for mum to just take a breath sometimes, and for dad to just get some fresh air and go for a walk.
For the most part we carry on as normal as much as possible, and the parents don’t like talking about their health situation. At least not with me. I’m the youngest daughter and I think they, especially dad, leaves any painful parts out. I have my own chronic conditions (aside from epilepsy … asthma, eczema, allerhic rhinities, PCOS, anxiety, etc).
It’s hard though because I feel a bit helpless.
I’m a marketing and communications professional in the health and care sector and ever since the end of the pandemic, the prostate cancer diagnosis and mums back-to-back surgeries, I’ve been working contract to help balance life, health and the ad hoc care needs. But I’d like to get back to full-time work again and I’ve started looking.
My concern is finding a workplace that recognises care responsibilities, especially as it’s only going to get harder probably, and that is also invisible disability friendly.