Hi ladies & gentlemen
I haven’t been on this forum for a while now, as I have been busy working with the usual trials and tribulations that life throws at you, my mother is now quite happily in a care/nursing home, I visit her once, sometimes twice a week, although my visits are a little strained, as you can’t really ask anything as they don’t know, also although she’s settled she keeps hold of the notion that she’s coming home, which makes me feel so guilty, as if I don’t feel guilty enough although that seems as though that never goes away, anyway I have been told it is a quite common practice.
I just had a visit yesterday, which was really nice as I now work part time, it was either taking that or redundancy, so I work part time at the same place, rather that then no job at all, anyway while I was there I phoned my brother in Australia so we could talk to him, he doesn’t do it of his own accord as he hates it that she doesn’t remember him, he hasn’t been over since 2018 but keeps saying maybe next year, I won’t hold my breath as I feel as though I am literally on my own now, and at times I get so down with it all.
Anyway I digress, my brother mentioned getting a POA, although I haven’t needed one yet, as this is a joint tenancy and we have a joint bank account, the only instance where it would of come in handy I lost my phone or rather it was stolen, so I put a claim on my mothers house insurance, when I contacted them they said they needed permission from my mother so that they could disclose details and deal with me, I told them about my situation and stressed she wouldn’t know what was going on, but the person I spoke to insisted so they phoned up the nursing home to speak to her, good luck with that, they ended up making an exemption for me as the staff even told them, so its because of this maybe its best all round if I had one of these, as you never know what’s around the corner, hence why I asked you guys, so although I am on my way out, thought I would post this as you always give invaluable advice, besides as I said I have nobody to ask, well apart from my half sister, who I am going to see today, but she is in her 70s and is no help at all on these matters, she tries her best and I am grateful she is there, if only for someone to talk to, but as I said she’s no help she didn’t even know what a POA is, so really it is all on my shoulders, so where do I start, I mean how do I even apply for one, how long does it take, how much does it cost, I had a quick look on the gov website and it mentioned it can take up to 20 weeks, is this right?
Samantha