@Penny i know what you mean but the only way to get things sorted sometimes is to complaint, and your husband saying he could manage ok.there was you there , and an OT. at home there would just be you and him getting him out of a car. They have hospital transport ambulances to bring people home from hospital and into the home. You tell them that is what you want. If your husband says I can manage I’m ok. You say well I cannot manage and I am not ok , and I am not doing it. So when it is time for him to be discharged arrange hospital transport ambulance for him. Also if you don’t think his walking it good enough to come home ask about rehab and the things above .Unfortunately in this day and age we seem to have to fight for everything and it should not be that way. Take care.
Penny, to them it’s just a job. To you it’s facing a bleak future forever.
I would refuse to have him home until they’ve approached the whole issue properly, starting with you, your daughter, and your need for a lot of GOOD carers to care for your OH. I know how they like to wipe the slate clean when it suits them, and have “a fresh start”. I just see that as trying to avoid their responsibility and dump it on someone else. If they can’t even get him home safely, then he has to stay until they can.
They just don’t bother one in one out. I saw a women on my ward who could not walk who said she was not going home till she could do her daughter was there saying the same. The women who came to tell her she was going home said it’s above me I’m just the one who has to come and tell you. The next day the ambulance people came and out she went. It’s all fighting and complaining and it should not be like that we are tired enough.
@Penny i would suggest for this meeting tomorrow you write a list of all the things you want to know, all your concerns, and about help and support and anything else you want to say. Then you have a list to go off and don’t forget what you want to say. The physio is just doing what she has been told to do. It will be the consultant , ward manager, discharge co ordinator who decides things they should be at this meeting. I hope that you are ok. Take care.