A Ring door bell would show if and when they turned up. If only elderly people realised that the more help they accepted the longer they could stay in their own home!
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That’s a great shout
Both my brother and I could keep an eye on her movements as well. I’m guessing more than one person can access the camera
I don’t know exactly how Ring works, but have seen recordings on Facebook when people have had “unwelcome visitors”. At home we have 4 24/7 cameras as we have a lot of old machinery, including steam engines!
@Tango59 I feel your pain! My mum now has carers every day for three hours and has been getting up at stupid o’clock so that she is “washed and dressed” before they arrive at 9:30 ready to shower her. She won’t let them. They make her breakfast which apparently she eats, then they make her lunch and she says “I’ll have that later” but doesn’t or “I don’t need it because I’m having a hot meal tonight”, which I then, like you, find going off in the fridge.
Luckily we have had an epiphany this week. Mum insisted that I got her an appointment with the GP, so he could cure her and make her like she was 20 years ago. He took one look at her and said “that’s enough now. You need to go into care.” So it will soon all be someone else’s problem.
I am on an online portal with Mum’s carers, so they leave notes everyday for me on check in and out times, what she has eaten, medications they have given and whether she has refused to let them call me or an ambulance when she is really suffering. It’s very useful. Do your Mum’s carer offer anything like that? 
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I’m not aware that they offer this, we do have a number we can ring though which we use if we know mum isn’t going to be in ie appointments or if we take her out for lunch. My brother wants to let the food run down completely which sounds sort of cruel but we need to demonstrate that if we don’t shop for her then she doesn’t eat.
My brother called after me yesterday and found a bowl of soup and a sandwich on a tray untouched and no sign of mum. She had decided to take herself off to town on the bus. We are assuming the carer made the meal and left her to eat it… He rang her and said why didn’t you eat your lunch… She argued that she had and he told her to look in the fridge as that’s where it was.,she denied ever seeing it. I suspect she had gone to a cafe whilst in town. Soup and sandwich still in fridge this morning which I’ve now binned as I don’t know how long it had been out. Got accused of being wasteful and she wouldn’t let me make her anything. She had a lot of perishable stuff in the fridge close to expiry so I’ve used it all up in a stir fry which she can have for her tea. I’ve told her to make a list of any bits she needs picking up and the carers will do it for her. I know she won’t do it tho, not sure what else I can do
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