Once again I am sorry for writing another post.
Mum has just called me asking for money to pay for her carers. I am stuffed for the month as it is due to paying two lots of rent, one for my old place and one for the new place, plus petrol, food and essential items costs. But no she does not care about that. I have savings, but hell no! It’s one thing to lend money to someone who can pay it back, but I know she won’t ever be able to. Or it will be one of them cases where I’ll get it back at the start of the month, but a week later it’ll be gone again. Just no!
My car also may be on its last legs, I’m just monitoring it now. It’s running fine, but the oil pressure keeps dropping. I’ve spoken to a mechanic who has advised me that if there isn’t a leak, the car could be burning oil. Either that or due to my high mileage and crappy Asda oil top ups occasionally it may just have impacted it. He has advised a high performance oil, I only put it in a couple of days ago. So I am yet to see the effect. Hopefully it will be okay. However, I need to think about affording a new car in the near future. He said that if it is burning oil that badly then a whole engine rebuild will be needed which is just not worth it on a car like mine, it would exceed the value. I also need it for my job, and I refuse to give the job that I worked hard to get up. That car is my no1 priority right now because without it I am stuffed.
Money isn’t abundant as it is, and well she gets more than I do. Our rents are the same too. So I know what things should be like.
I also just think that the social workers have done her financial assessment wrong because she is having to pay that much. I did request that I do it on her behalf and the SW agreed, but never asked me whatsoever. I had explained to them that mum struggles with understanding money and bills. The carers are also asking for the money before she gets paid so someone has stuffed up there. Something could have got lost.
I have done the online financial assessment quite a few times. The local council one suggests that she does not have to pay anything due to her being on such a low income. Yet they are making her pay nearly £200 a month which is a quarter of her income after rent. Gas and electric bills are totalling £200 a month. Food £150. Water £50 a month. Phone £50 a month. (The phone bills are higher here, because there is only one provider in the whole area, there is no other option). On top of that there are transport costs, and other essentials. Plus she has to have money for herself. So it’s just so high.
I just think they have done it wrong and I am being used as a scapegoat once again. I can’t afford to pay for her carers, nor do I want to.
As it is the case across the country, people on benefits don’t always realise the amount of extras they get on top of their income. Yet people on minimum wage are told we just earn too much. So I am finding affording things a little tight. £200 is half of what I have left over every month and well £200 to me is some money towards a new car. I just think it’s a classic case of “be the good daughter.” I have to pay for my medication every month (for an existing condition which can’t be treated otherwise).
I’m just not going to be treat like this.