I’ve just joined and id like to know if anyone has experienced similar responsibilities to me & how to support a parent.
My dad has had a very rare form of cancer for 11 years and has been very strong! I am 22 years old now and when I was 16 my mum walked out on my dad and I. It was very scary for many reasons at the time, however we had my Nan (dads mum) with us who attended all of his hospital appointments with him and kept him strong. Unfortunately she suddenly got cancer and passed away 18months ago and since then it has been just my dad and I.
I try to visit his appointments with him but he will often not tell me when they are because he feels guilty if I miss time off work to attend hospital visits with him. This is hard because I don’t have any oversight on how his condition is progressing. I try to make sure he is always eating to stop him losing more weight, encourage him to take his pills and am there for him on his “bad” days & good! (FYI I live with him)
Recently, my dad has shared with me that his condition is rapidly getting worse and he showed me his doctors note to say that palliative care will start from January 2019.
Firstly, I don’t know if how I’m supporting him makes me a Carer or not - can anyone shed any light on this?
I just want to make the end of his life as positive as possible - does anyone have my ideas how to make someone’s last few months as happy as possible?
When he does leave me I will be all on my own and I’m very worried and scared, I’m not ready for him to leave. This affects how I communicate with him because I try not to be emotional around him.
If anyone out there has any ideas to support him and how I can do my best for him during this time please let me know. I feel very lonely.