Thanks, OnTheVerge, for following my suggestion and starting a new thread. You have summarised things very well. In particular, you have summed up your siblings. We now have a clearer view of your situation.
In your previous thread you made the following statement:
It is good to have ideas for the future, but don’t presume that things will just fall into place when the time comes. You need to build a strategy into your life.
I can understand your wish to distance yourselves from your siblings. There are two points to consider:
- The price of accommodation, rented or owned
- Your income from employment
So where is as far as possible from Yorkshire? Cornwall?
Cornwall is suffering gross inflation of property prices, owing to people from wealthy areas, like London, moving there or purchasing second homes. It has reached the point where young locals are forced to move up country to find the combination of affordable housing and ready employment. Forget Cornwall.
In fact anywhere towards the south of England is going to be significantly more expensive than Yorkshire, though job prospects are better.
I recall you did try for a place of your own near your present home so that you could enjoy some respite and solitude - but you were unable to afford anything worth having.
I don’t know which part of Yorkshire you live in, but you could find cheaper properties by moving a little way north or west, e.g. Teesside, Durham, Tyneside, Lancashire. However you would require a new job and these are not the best areas for job hunting.
You do not need to choose a new location just yet. However it would be a good idea to enhance your present employment status. You work part-time; see if you can negotiate to work extra hours, thus increasing your income and savings - and also get away from your disfunctional family more often. Does your present employment have offices elsewhere in the country, to which you could move? If not, you will rely on your income and goodwill from your present company, from which you would seek a reference, in your search for new employment.