I feel a bit of a fraud after reading some other people’s much more challenging experiences here, but I thought I’d register for the forum as I suspect I might find online support useful over the coming months. My problems are not big ones but I’d rather try and get things right, find the right resources quickly, etc.
I am 61, retired, and live about half an hour away from my widowed mother, who is 89 and lives in her own flat in a retirement block. Until just over a year ago she was quite fit and independent and didn’t need much support, but over the past year she’s had a number of problems that have affected her mobility and ability to be self-sufficient. I find I’m increasingly having to help out, pop over more frequently, do her shopping, help her with tasks and chores around the place, take her to GP and hospital appointments etc. I don’t really mind as I’m the oldest of my siblings, live the closest and, mostly importantly, am the only one that’s retired so I have the time. However, I think we need to face the fact that her mobility isn’t going to get any better and we need to start looking at where she needs more help on a permanent basis. I think this is going to be a difficult conversation because she doesn’t like the idea of needing help - it’s just about acceptable from me as her daughter but a different matter having to acknowledge she needs professional support.
I think that’s it for the moment - I’m still finding my way around the forum and the resources available, but I can see I might be asking specific questions over the coming months, and possibly sounding off a bit about old people who cause more problems by not wanting to be a burden than if they accepted help gracefully