If mum is saying different things to you and your brother, maybe you could both focus on what she NEEDS instead? Good homes have waiting lists. Some offer respite care. Some have different sections. Where my mum went had people who needed physical care on the first floor. The second floor was for those who had dementia symptoms as well. I was assured that they could cope with anything other than uncontrolled bleeding, until mum died. If mum needs to leave her own home, try to ensure it will be her last ever move.
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