Hi all, my dad took a stroke 4-5 weeks ago and luckily his movement improved really quickly allowing him to be released from the hospital… that and keeping him in the hospital was counterproductive as he was getting depressed staying put in a room, and getting angry with doctors and nurses.
He got out on Monday last week and for the first 2-3 days he was great. He has fluent aphasia so it is very difficult understanding him right now, his short-term memory is bad and he has lost sight in his right eye and most of his left. At first, he was pretty patient with us - more relief not being in hospital - but the more frustrated he gets he’s starting to shut off a bit already. His mood is changing from happy to angry to happy to fed up… and so on throughout the day. Today he woke up in a terrible mood and has spent the day in bed, not eating… tho he just took toast there.
His memory is quite bad so he’s forgetting things like how much money he had pre-stroke - and thinks people have taken his money. He’s getting angry cos we took his phone - he’s not in a place to call clients for example… so that annoys him as he thinks he’s being treated like a child. We gave him a phone but only with a handful of family in it… which he threw away. He also tells the same story on repeat for hours on end… tho obviously a mix of jumbled words, made-up words, and broken sentences. Luckily we can make out thru gestures and some patience what he means sometimes.
If it is hard for us, we can all only imagine how hard it is for him. In fact, I feel bad even talking about it being difficult for us his family. With Covid rules not changing in my area due to the Indian variant numbers rising, he’s only had one facetime meeting with the doctor. He may have to wait a bit for speech therapy sessions.
I take him walks regularly as he loves that, not being able to focus completely on TV or being able to read means he’s got a lot of pent-up energy. But again, the more frustrated and anxious he gets, the less we can understand him. Names of people and genders are alien to him right now, so he mainly identifies the family as names like, “the wee guy, the man, the old guy, the boy, him, the one…” whether female or male. He also uses birthdays and numbers like, “1,2,3,4 stop… and 2”… which means myself cos I’m 42.
So, I’m wondering if anyone else has had or has still, a similar experience with a family member, especially those with aphasia, and how they dealt with those first few weeks, maybe offer some advice on communicating or dealing with the mood swings?