I have an elderly 90yr old who’s been admitted to hospital 4 time in the last 12 months, like most senior citizens very independent and refuses intermediate care other than in their own home, no I’m not against that in principle, however there’s an impasse as what support is accepted and when by said relative, this leads to the same spiral of self neglect and readmission to hospital.
I note some comments in the forum that advise you have to be a little " brutal" say it as it is, but where you have a loved one that will not see others points of view you sometimes feel you just have to remove support completely.
I’m not a full time carer, but just one sibling who has that overwhelming sense of duty to ones own parent, however as mentioned by others on this forum, I do have a life outside and kind of wonder what it will take to change mindsets, any ideas on how to get an elderly parent to accept intermediate care outside of the home so said parent can at least get in better shape ready for a “possible” return home?
My relative has had a TIA so short term memory isn’t that good, can never be sure meds have been taken or food eaten, is house bound and will not go out, full of osteoarthritis and gout, plus refuses to co-operate with the care packages in place.