Hi, My mum came to live across the road from us four years ago now. We lived over 100 miles away from her and my dad and her sister had died a few years previously, I have no siblings, and she felt she would be much happier near us and her grandchildren. The thing is she had quite a good social life, she had friends she met every day for coffee and belonged to a few groups, so I was unsure it was a good move, but she was adamant.
As soon as mum moved in her bungalow she announced that she wasn’t going to get involved with people like she did where she lived before and even told her friend, when we took her back for a visit, that she didn’t need any new friends as she had me. That is the way things have stayed. The bus stops at the end of her drive, it stops outside the doctors and the town shops, but she can’t go on her own! So I work in the mornings and take her out every afternoon, otherwise she would just sit there looking out of the window, staring at our house. Mum has her evening meal with us every day and we take her out for lunch on Sundays. She is very well for 91, although of course everything is done at a snail’s pace.
The problem is she appears to be jealous, both of my husband of 43 years and our great grandchildren. Neither of them seem to be able to do anything right. She comes from the “children should be seen and not heard” generation. My husband and I live our lives around mum and I feel guilty whenever we do anything without her, which isn’t very often. Mum even goes away on holiday with us but was so grumpy last year, that I don’t think we will be going again.
I know people on here have much worse problems than us, at least mum isn’t living with us. It’s just sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming. We are due to retire in a couple of years and had so many plans, but now I can see it all being about mum.
Thank you for the chance to vent.