I realised my husband had a reason for his behaviour when I had training in relation to autism. It explained at lot and from early in our marriage we accommodated his behaviour. He is also dyslexic so cannot do even the most basic paperwork. As our marriage continued he brought the money in I did everything else. I did not realise that this was caring, I do now after being on this forum.

We have been married for 46 years, and our lives have been very independent of each other for about 25 years since the kids left home. He didn’t need me and we both enjoyed being independent. I worked in London, he in our cottage at home. We enjoyed travel and when I was home we enjoyed a lovely life. He retired and took over doing cooking when I was home.

My husband developed depression two years ago, and from us being very separate he is now totally dependent on me and clings to me. I can’t cope with the pressure and guilt. I had been able to cope with my caring as it was not an emotional need but functional basis. Now he seems to need me as an emotional support.

I am here to get the support from those who understand the pressure of being a carer. The loneliness and frustration that comes with this position too.