Married, working full time, and unpaid carer for my husband who has rheumatoid arthritis, depression, sleep apnoea and diabetes. I lost my first husband to cancer in 2003, he was 42. I have also shared unpaid carer responsibility for my Mum, with my brother and sister, until she passed away December 27th. I have 2 adult daughters and sons in law, 2 granddaughters, and 2 stepdaughters. I need to start looking after myself better, lose weight and exercise, which seems impossible and overwhelming just now.