Many folks would like to believe that the world we live in is a caring world.

Perhaps only the most optimistic carer would think that the world is a caring place when experience of institutional support is often less than adequate. In the same way, perhaps systemic difficulties in our experience of caring for others may rob us of finding any hope at all. So if I have learned one thing in the 34 years I have been caring for my severely learning and physically disabled son - care is learning to cope with limitations - both of oneself and others. And a caring world seems more plausible when our own world in care is well defined and gives others a way to give a help in hand.

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Welcome to the forum, enuru_2202.

I’ve never really thought of the world as a caring world, so much as a world that has people who do care in it. And a lot of people who don’t. If we’re lucky we find the people who do.

The hard part, when you’ve been caring for a long time, is not to become embittered by the relentless grind. I saw that happen to my Mum, who is herself now in need of care, and I’ve come close to it over the years myself.

What has kept me going is my lovely wife and the carers I’ve known over the years.

Just as well, because the system means well but doesn’t actually understand either the people it’s supposed to serve or the people who are supposed to make it work.