Hi. I am a mother of 2 boys, (24 and 36) both with “conditions”, although neither have been properly diagnosed. The eldest, who is believed to have Asperger’s Syndrome, has returned home due to a relationship breakdown, and more recently, his 3 children have also moved in with us since their mother wasn’t caring for them as she should. My youngest has Epileosy and “possible” Dyspraxia. He moved out into his own flat last year because the change in the dynamics at home were stress at home causing him to have seizures, after being 3 and a half years seizure free. He now has his current girlfriend living with him, although she is quite immature, and he has been having more frequent seizures (not certain what is causing these).
I have had enough of the abuse they dish out to me and just want to vent, but would really like some coping strategies to help with supporting, loving and caring for them.
I have been there trying to support them through all the trials of life and responsibility, but think that maybe, I have done too much. I am tryingvto take a step back to let them learn for themselves, but am finding it difficult to watch them suffer. However, when I do step into help, it seems I can’t do right for doing wrong. Can anyone relate/help with this.