I am very worried about my sister, she is very unwell and currently under a section 2 in hospital. She has been newly diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, she has been unwell before and previously had a diagnosis of Bipolar.
I can’t communicate with her; she is extremely aggressive (verbally and occasionally physically) towards all immediate family members this has gone on for months with multiple hospital stays for her. She has also isolated herself from her close friends. Due to her behaviours towards us, I sometimes refuse to see or communicate with her. However, she quickly will resort to saying ‘I love you’ ‘I need my family’ and accuses me of abandoning her.
When I try to reason with her and get her to understand why I am doing this she either ignores me or blames her behaviors on being unwell. She is abusive to me every single day, and can only speak about herself, she has no empathy for the impact her behavior is having on the family.
Professionals have advises the family to take a step back- however this appears to increase her aggression and resulted on a serious physically attack on my dad and a smashed window at our house (she does not live with us for obvious reasons).
This is effecting my whole life I feel I am constantly stressed and worried - I am also very worried about my parents who are in their 60s/70s and should be enjoying retirement.
Does anyone have any advice on how to communicate with individuals with BPD? Or how to help her? She is currently not on any regular medications and will not interact with medical professionals or her social worker. I understand DBT therapy is effective in treating BPD however she is not in the right headspace at the moment and declines any therapeutic intervention.