Hi! I joined this group as I was feeling a little low. I don’t have the same burden of responsibility as many (probably the majority) of you here but I just need an outlet!. My husband has Wegner’s Granulomatosis, or officially known as Granulomatosis with Polyangiitis. It’s a form of vasulittis. He isn’t totally incapacitated by it but it is a disease that rules our lives. I struggle with it as I am most certainly not a nurse, I don’t have the patience or knowledge but I think my hubby thinks I do!!! I am his official carer. He does depend on me to manage his numerous hospital and doctor’s appointments, his medication and his symptoms. Am I being selfish when I get frustrated because he can’t deal with these things himself? I just feel he relies on me too much. Do you think I should be more firm in making him manage his own condition more instead of ‘mothering’ him? Or am I being the selfish one? I’m struggling with the burden of this. Help!!!
How would he do all this without you?
Maybe it’s time you had someone else involved to get to know him and your household, who can take him to appointments and give you some time off? How old are you both?
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