I’m a immigrant to the country I met my husband seven years ago we have a son and daughter together. I got a little insight to some of his unreasonable behaviour early on but I attributed it to being in a long distance relationship for four years prior.
When I finally immigrated, his behaviour became progressively worse, he believes his own delusions and I find it exhausting trying to keep grounded into reality while being sucked into his unreasonable behavior. I have no support system, no family, no friends, I’m not allowed these things so I’m forced to keep up an exhausting facade with no way out.
My oldest daughter who is 14 wanted to push the baby buggy along side me as we walked down the High Street, he told me that it’s child endangerment and he will get me deported and take my kids away. He uses my children as a threat all the time. Its not something over and done with it will resort to hours of harassment over minor things.
He claims to have the house bugged to watch me, which is untrue. Then makes up nonsense scenarios he claims he’s seen.
He once held my oldest daughter and I hostage in a room for hours because he thought we were plotting against him, he would repeat himself in circles demanding answers which drove both of us to tears and resorted in me using physical violence to get us out of the room.
This all came about because earlier in the day my daughter said it was her dream to see New Zealand one day. This infuriated him and he spun a whole delusion around it.
He hangs on the cusp of being completely normal which makes it hard for me, after a break down in front of his family over his delusions and me getting fed up, his extended family which were friendly before will no longer talk to us. He accused me of hiding his clothes to keep him from taking showers in front of them. Which is an odd topic to bring up to begin with.
I’m essentially trapped, I have no home and no family to go back to. He had forced me into signing a parental responsibility agreement using black mail that he will stop sponsoring me and take my kids away.
We both work and are working class, neither of us have any money, and not being a citizen I’m not entitled to any help.
There have been many times where he repeats himself for hours while trapping me. Once I resorted into jumping out in traffic during a red light, another time I tried to climb out a second story window.
I can’t cope with this anymore, I have made reports to the police to document this in case something terrible happens to one of us. I’m essentially powerless and this madness is going to come to a head one day.
What can I do to get him help