Hi @Ro1980 Welcome to the forum, lovely to see you here. You’re definitely come to the right place - you’ll find a lot of lovely friendly people that you can connect to, at your pace and when you want to. Here’s a link to Roll Call - a part of this space where we post general daily comments like a neighbourhood community centre or chat over the fence: https://forum.carersuk.org/t/roll-call-july-2026/128662?u=victoria_1806
I’m sorry to hear about your Mum - I now what that incontinence is like, I left work abroad to return to help my Mum care for my Dad who had a lot of different issues like heart failure, rheumatoid arthritis, bladder cancer and vascular dementia…the cancer and related operations made toileting difficult.
You’re doing amazing things considering everything you’re going through. Please don’t feel the need to silver line things - every person here has a painful experience and we get it.
Well done on orchestrating respite care - the coordination AND recognising how much you need the break. None of that is easy.
How’s your Mum’s mental health, are you able to communicate and feel understood?
I can understand how everything’s falling on you - I hope your brothers don’t complicate things for you.
Sending you hugs. Glad you’re here. You’re amongst friends.