Have things improved for you or not?
Thanks for your kind reply Denis
My doctor doesn’t know me or my history that well.I haven’t been under him that long and have had to change doctors a couple of times as have had issues with them.
I have told my social worker my needs the best I can.She’s not that easy to talk to but she seems like somebody who gets things done which is something.
Hello everyone
Undermyduvet is still around and hasn’t disappeared under the covers for good but I have been very tired out so not had chance to post yet.
I can understand my neighbours point of view to an extent…It is never easy living somewhere that isn’t right for your needs but it is hard to think of her and not feel hostile at the moment.Other people here have their own problems.I suffer from anxiety and have done for some time.My neighbour thinks the whole unit revolves around her.
Am waiting for an advocate but social worker said it might not be immediate.I have managed to get them to arrange a safeguarding meeting but am not clear on whether it is going to address the issues I am concerned about or if it is about other things.My social worker didn’t clarify that part with them and could only guess really.Perhaps my advocate can find out.I hope I get one well before the meeting.
In reply to everybody…With regards to the legal side of things…I have been speaking to somebody online for advice.My mum has also managed to speak to somebody on the phone and what they told her surprised me.Most of my rent here is council funded so it sounds like the council have some say in the notice decision(and apparently they have their own solicitors)so it is up to them to decide whether what they have done is fair or not.So does this mean that that when they presented the notice to my former social worker that she could have contested it(through her bosses),am I not being given the full information by social services?It sounds like it has to be a mutual agreement.Does anyone know anything about this?
Thanks for bringing us up to date and saying a bit more about yourself.
It should not matter that you have not been with your present doctor for long. He should have access to your medical history and be able to advise you or any party with reason to be involved. I’m glad that you are moving forward towards an advocate.
You say that your accommodation expenses are being partially funded by the Council. I would expect that this would mean that the Council could have some say in how things progress, though I don’t know, from the information we have, whether this would or would not act in your favour. You previously said that you were on notice to leave. Is this still the case, or has that notice been rescinded?
The doctors don’t understand my illness.I had to see a specialist when I was initially diagnosed.I am looking for a bungalow anyway as I need my own space.
Yeah,I mentioned the notice in my last post.It still stands but I am trying to find out my options as I need more time and I have a safeguarding meeting coming up…Apparently the home have a contract with the council if you are council funded.I think the home is a private home but if it is council funded I wouldn’t think this would make a difference.
When you attend the safeguarding meeting, find out your options. Speak up and also ask questions. Bring a pen to take notes during the meeting too. Insist on your concerns being addressed in a timely manner. Who will be at the meeting apart from you and your mom?
This is a link with more information on how safeguarding meetings work http://www.ersab.org.uk/EasysiteWeb/getresource.axd?AssetID=646633&type=full&servicetype=Attachment
Thanks Thara.I am downloading the attachment.This could be really useful.
I doubt i’ll be attending the safeguarding meeting myself as it isn’t being held at the home.Even if it were possible to attend the thought of being in the same room as our manager for a whole meeting gives me chills.My advocate will probably go in my place and my mum will go too hopefully.
One major hitch is the safeguarding meeting isn’t going ahead until just after the final eviction date.Am not sure why this is.I don’t know if management will allow time for this as they don’t seem to want the meeting.It is important I have a voice in all of this.What do I do?
The solution is simple.
Ask for the Safeguarding Meeting to be held at the home, WITHOUT the manager, as you are apparently about to leave!
The meeting could be held in stages, first talking to you, then perhaps with the manager, then with you. That’s if you are staying.
Do you have any say in who attends the safeguarding meetings?The reason I ask is there’s a professional who mentioned they might attend and I don’t trust them and don’t really want the meeting to go ahead if they are…regardless of whether I decide to go.This person has caused endless problems for me in the past(am not talking about the manager here…although I don’t really feel comfortable with her going either)
Another update from me…having to use touchscreen so excuse typos
Theyre trying to postpone safeguarding meeting which is making me angry.I mean life is hell at the home and am close to deadline of letter.How urgent does it need to be?I have zero support and still waiting on advocate.
The lawyers have told us different things about where we stand with council9(we spoke to 3)two have said they should have some say about the notice as council fund a lot of my fees and the one I spoke to says that isnt neccessarily the case.Argh
Stand your ground. When is the meeting supposed to occur? Do not let them off unscathed with anything. Inform them that you are thinking of contacting the media to tell your story. This is like a really bad movie seriously! Have you contacted citizens advice or not?
Still on touchscreen as bluetooth not working on tablet
The meeting was meant to be the end of nov but social worker said it might not happen then.When my mum asked her if meeting was going to address bullying my social worker didnt give a direct answer.I dont know if it is because she doesnt know or if something else is going on.Theres a lot of things that need to be discussed at the meeting and that is one of them.I cant believe that social services dont take my case seriously enough.
That might not be a bad idea about media if they dont up their game
We actually spoke to the local politician in person but he let us down too.He said he would help then didnt.That was deveastating as you can imagine.
Yes…I contacted citizens advice online a week or two back and they said that somebody at my local building would Email and give support and they havent.Might try them again tomorrow
My whole life seems to be like a bad movie…lol.Theyll probably ending up filming it for the Hallmark channel(sky channel that plays a lot of made for TV movies)
When will the meeting happen?
No news on meeting yet.What makes me angry is that the social worker didn’t tell my mum the meeting might be postponed until she asked about the advocate.Surely the social worker should have contacted us and told us or at the very least brought it up?
Has anyone else had bad experiences with social workers?
My neighbour actually locked my mum and I out of the building the other week and she is always waving her stick around.It is insane that nbody has dealt with her
Try to push for this meeting. If it involves harassment, that should not matter either. This is why I refuse to use social workers out of fear of having a bad experience but the one who I met the other day to talk about adaptive equipment seemed alright but time will tell. I met her at the hospital rather than at my flat. And wow! I went to a care home to see a friend this week and she was the only one who I could actually talk to. We ended up sitting in her bedroom talking rather than in a communal area. She was the only young person with a physical disability there, all the others were retired and had cognitive disabilities/dementia.
What sort of a care home is this, that this could happen? Usually entry to and exit from a care home is checked by a code on a keypad. How could your neighbour interfere with the system to lock you out? How long did it take the staff to deal with it?
Certainly mention this incident at the meeting.
It was the firedoor of the dayroom which she slammed shut with her stick.I didn’t even feel we could report it as the home never really want to know.
Am still hardly ringing my bell because of my neighbour.I ring in the daytime but not the evenings.
Thanks, Undermyduvet for the update. I retract my implied criticism of the care home.
Do you have an advocate yet? Have you a date for the meeting, or a date when you will be obliged to leave?
The safeguarding meeting is tomorrow so will let you all know how it goes.I am not able to attend for personal reasons but I have an advocate
Good luck!