Are their any video resources out there to help care receivers, understand the needs of their care givers

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Both my husband and I are disabled, but I am his caregiver and I work fulltime.
He is getting increasingly self-centred not just with myself but with our young adult kids too.
He has a real can’t do attitude, I’m sure he’s depressed but he won’t hear of it and he won’t get help.
Are there any video resources for care recievers to help them look outside of themselves and their needs?

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Hi @Helen3927 and welcome.

I don’t know of any video resources out there, but it sounds to me like there should be! Something that would make politicians ashamed of their inaction and carees understand that other people matter too.

You’re probably right about the depression. I saw it a lot in my job, especially where the disabled person had become disabled later in life. It might be worth challenging him to do a simple task he usually expects of you. but you’ll need to be prepared to wait him out if he refuses - and take it from there.

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@Helen3927
I hear you. Sending hugs. Its really tough when someone has mental capacity but is starting to suffer depression or feel bad whether it’s intentional or not all this has a huge impact on those around them. I’m not here to judge him

can he get online himself? Would he join an online chat group or interact with others online. In my experience the more connection with the outside world there is the more folks tend to get animated and WANT to do something.

I’m sharing a few resources I found - I hope something here, the organisations or resources can help or pique his interest

USA Organisation

This last one is from a creator/author on Substack - this is a media platform (I have my own website there). Interdependence > Independence Author is Kelsey Peterson. this is a video

Of course actually sharing and him watching these or being interested is probably the main hurdle
best wishes

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As someone with a degree level education, but unable to have a career because my son was brain damaged at birth, life has been full of “what if” and “if only”. I’ve always done my best and done some very unusual things, but not what I’d planned or studied hard for. Is your husband lonely and isolated? Sadly most disabled day centres have closed down now, run properly they were a good way of having a social life etc. and carers could relax and take care of themselves. Integration is fine in theory, but where is the transport and support?